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I’ve Been Born Again! (And Again and Again) [Post #117]

Halleluiah! I’ve been born again! Oh, my… have I flipped out and become a religious fanatic? A Fundamentalist Jesus freak? Well, no. I’m not saying this phrase in that respect. Not that there’s anything wrong with that exclamation if that is your experience, I say. I’m referring to that type of experience in a more secular way. I’m thinking along the lines of a quote attributed to the Buddha (around 500 B.C.). The quote attributed to him was something like “Every morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” Gautama Buddha’s profound insight on the importance of living in the present and making each day count.

So, yes, I’ve been born again and again. Every morning, I wake up and begin a new day. Every day is like a new birth! We start our new day, and if we think right about it, it can be like a new life. But do we see it that way? Do we live life that way? For many, probably not. I’d have to say, that for a lot of my earlier life, I never thought of it that way. Too bad, as I think I missed out on a lot of the joy of life. I just woke up and continued in the muck or whatever from the previous day. I didn’t think of treating each new day as a new starting point that could be a wonderful experience. Being “born anew” each day would have been a great experience I now see.

Perhaps it is because I am now older. I am closer to the end of my existence here in this life that I value each day and don’t want to waste any day clouded in whatever crap may be going on in my life. Not that every day has crap in it, but you know what I mean. Just the stresses of life can get to us. We have to have a way, a method to bring the good into our lives, every day, as I see it. Let yesterday’s downers be gone. Start fresh. Be happy. Be joyous. Life is short. Really short when you’re at the age I’m at.

I have learned that I need a routine, a practice at the start of each day to “ground myself.” Focus my mind and thoughts on the joy of life, no matter what may be going on in my life. Once I discovered this truth and committed to it daily, I began experiencing my day in a new way. I elevated my mood, my emotions, my whole life, in essence.

My routine is what many would call a “spiritual practice.” In a sense, I am like a monk in a monetary you could say. I say this because I find great positive results by spending this period at the start of my day doing the things people would term as “spiritual practice.” I spend a period of time in “the silence.” I read positive material. I read good devotional literature. I meditate. I pray. I write. I contemplate, I think, I ponder. I appreciate life, especially this new day, no matter what is going on. I am alive! I am still here. I have love in my life. I live love. I surrender to the mystery of this thing called life, existence. I certainly don’t understand it, but I surrender to it all. And this took many, many decades to find. This place of morning renewal, revival, “born again” ness! Wow, if only I had discovered and realized this way of beginning my day in my early life. I feel that a lot of my suffering experiences would have diminished substantially. Not that everything would have been wonderful and perfect, but a lot of suffering would have been relieved.

So, perhaps the Buddha was on to something by saying (if he actually did) that we are born anew each morning. Jesus also talked about being “born anew,” but not so much in a daily way, but in a basic life orientation of a new heart, way of being. I have no problem with either version of the born-again experience. I have experienced both versions of this. I can’t imagine not having some degree of these in life. There is more to life than just the daily drudgery of living without what Jesus would call “the kingdom” in your life. The world does not satisfy me as it is without the extra inner experience of, well, shall we call it Spirit, God, or as I call it, often, “the Other.”

So, if you want to take the agnostic or atheist path and not deal with the spiritual aspects of what I’m talking about, then be totally secular and just try starting the day each morning with the realization that this is a brand-new day, and I am born again. this day! I will create a new life today.

Wally

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Jesus (“Christ”???) [Post #116]

Well, since I’ve been saying how I like Jesus’s teachings and find living by them to be a good way to live a fulfilling, good life, I thought perhaps it would be a good time to explore who this person was, or who people thought he was. A big question, for sure, no?

So, Yeshua, to use his correct name according to scholars, who was he, or even, was he? For a few years or so in my life I was an atheist-agnostic. I had given up on believing so much of the fundamentalist, evangelical stuff after deep theological and historical study that I proclaimed myself to be an atheist. So, I delved into the atheist and agnostic views of life. I read books claiming that the man Jesus never actually existed. The evidence was that he was hardly even mentioned by historians of the ancient time. Interesting, but not very convincing to me. I think someone lived and did some amazing things to create such a movement that Christianity eventually became. Someone like the legend of Jesus existed, I decided. But what was the true story about this interesting man?

Well, you can study this subject forever and still have that basic question in your mind, just who was this person? So, in this short essay I will basically scan over this subject for an overview of the different perspectives on this question. You can decide where you stand, or, most likely, you have already made up your mind of who Jesus was. Are you a believer? A believer in what, exactly?

So, at the one end of the spectrum, there are some who believe that there never was a man Jesus. A few may take that position. Most people believe there was a wandering, preaching Jesus. Different views developed on who exactly he was. The gospel of John considers him as always existing from the beginning of time. “In the beginning was The Word… He was with God in the beginning.” That’s at the one extreme.

Different groups developed other views of when Jesus became God. Some say he was human but became Divine at his baptism by John the Baptist when the skies opened up. Some say he was never human, he was always Divine. Some say he was half human, half Divine. And on and on the different beliefs went. Some view him as a prophet or sage, a great teacher of spiritual things, but fully human.

So, I’ve been all over the map on this subject. I’ve spent a lot of time in theological study. It’s all interesting, but in the end, to me, I don’t really care how you handle this topic. My point is that this man they call Jesus in these old writings, scriptures had wonderful teachings and insights into the human life on this earth, in the many different cultures. I am more committed to his way of life, his teachings than to anyone else that I’ve studied over my life. The “Christ,” the “Messiah?” A sage, a great teacher? I say, that’s your call. As for the theology about being a sacrifice for our sins, a savior, well, that’s your call, also. That was not his teaching, really. That was the apostle Paul’s teaching. He really developed what became the religion we now call Christianity. You can believe that, also, if you choose.

My point is that you seriously consider and study the Jesus teaching and the stories of the life of this man. Consider what He taught. Consider how he lived. A sinless, perfect Son of God? Your decision how far to go down that line of thought and belief.

I live the Jesus life. I commit to the Jesus life. I recommend the Jesus life. I guess you could say I preach the Jesus life (well, except I really don’t preach, rather “recommend). Jesus the Christ? Ah, the mystery. The mystery of religion. The mystery of all religions. That is my fascination with all of this. The mystery of all life.

Wally

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It’s All Choices in the End [Post #115]

So, my previous blog ended with me saying it all comes down to life being about love and about choice. And I think that really is the way it is. Our choices throughout our life determine so much. We all have things happening to us from the day we are born. We all have what we call our good times and our bad times. If we are honest in looking at life and our world, we see that horrible things happen and exist. Oh, I know there are “spiritual” people that would disagree and say all is wonderful, there’s no such thing as evil in the world, that it’s all how you look at it. Been around those people, those groups. Don’t buy that line of thought and belief, though.

So, we’re born, and in those early years we really don’t have much control over the things in our lives. If we’re lucky, we are born into a good family. Good, loving, caring parents and family members is the ideal. Some people are fortunate to have that in early life and some are not. But as we come along in our childhood. we do have many choices to make every day. Little choices. How to feel, how to react to situations. Every day, choices to make.

Of course, as we grow and mature, we continue making choices all the time. And eventually we begin to make some big choices. Do we do this, do we do that? What do we get involved in? What interests do we give our attention to? Do we think for ourselves, or do we go along with the crowd, our culture, our society? Do we give in to all our urges, do we try “questionable” things (drugs, promiscuous sexual activities, crime, violence, etc.)? Every little (and big) choice takes us somewhere in our journey. We go down this path, we go down that path. And the consequences of all those choices take us somewhere. That somewhere is our life.

So, if you’ve read many of my blogs, you know that, overall, I’ve had and am having a good life. Hence, the title of my blog website ” On the Path; A Wonderful Life” And that is accurate. I have had a wonderful life. I’ve accomplished my dreams in so many ways. I’m satisfied how it has all turned out. And now I see how it was all a consequence of the many choices I have made all along the way. Millions of choices through the years since my birth.

Of course, not all of my choices were good. I made some bad choices and suffered the consequences, just as everyone does. But you know what? I self-corrected. I did not go off in the wrong direction for very long before I came to my senses and realized that this is not the way to go. I’m very thankful that I was guided to a better way before too long. Yes, I feel that I was guided. What does that mean? Is there a God? Is it watching over me and nudging me, some or all of the time? Deep questions, huh? I think so. A “higher self?” A god of a particular religion? Angels, spirits, energies?

I ended my previous blog talking about my knowing that there is a “something.” And that knowing all of life is about love. That there is good, and that there is bad, really bad in life. And there is choice, which is what this blog post is about. The choices that make up our life. So, at this point in my life, what do I have to say as I reflect on the subject of choice and love and living a good life?

I asked, “how will you live? How do you live?” And I suggested examining Jesus’ teachings. And the Kingdom of God. And I said it is within you (the Kingdom of God), if you choose. I didn’t mean that in a “preaching” way, as a “Bible thumper or fundamentalist, evangelical-type Christian way. More like in a philosophical, metaphysical, spiritual way.

As I’ve said, our life turns out to be a result of our choices as we live. I’m advocating that we think about our choices more consciously, more deliberately. And, yes, I’m advocating that we study and consider seriously Jesus’ teachings.

His teachings were all about a relationship with what he called God. We may have other terms we may use. As I’ve said, I often use the term “the something,” since I don’t want a rigid and closed definition and conception of “God.”

Jesus’ teachings work for me. Yes, there are other saints and prophets and sages and teachers, but I find Jesus’ teachings are great, life-altering if we let them be. I find that it is possible to experience the Kingdom of God that Jesus spoke of. That was his message, as I see it, “don’t look here, don’t look there… the Kingdom is within you!” Open up to the spiritual dimension, I say, and experience “God,” “The Kingdom.” That’s how to live. And live love, with Jesus as your example. It works. It’s how I choose to live. Another good choice, as I see it.

Wally

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The One True Religion [Post # 114]

Well, that title should get your attention. The one true religion. In one short essay I shall resolve the big question of What is the true religion. There are hundreds of religions, you know. Ever wonder which one is the real one. Can’t all be the one true religion, right. Right. So….

You have probably sensed from my blogs that I do have a great curiosity of things religious, spiritual, or other-worldly, beyond the veil, as they say. Well, you are correct. A quick overview of my “theological” adventures and studies may help you in understanding this essay on finding the one “true” religion.

Some of the major religions of the world… but many more….

My family was not really a religious family. We did say grace at dinnertime, and I was taught to say my prayers at bedtime, “now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep,,,,” But that was it. The kids were sent to Sunday school. We atternded church because my dad liked the minister because he was a big football fan. But the really “religious” stuff, well, that was not important or talked about. My father told me about the many phony ministers he knew in his life, etc. So, we attended church because the minister was a sports fan. And when the minister left and a new one came, that was the end of church attendance for us.

I had a lot of frustrations and problems with my childhood at home and one day in my teens I had a breakthrough of sorts. I had what I would call a “come to Jesus” moment that broke open a new outlook on things in my life. I got in touch with the possibility of a life beyond the rather unpleasant (at times) material world I grew up in. That moment started me on a quest to discover if here was more to life than the merely “visible” life I was experiencing.

I got involved in a church group with friends at high school. I attended church and youth groups and socialized with my church friends. After high school and a year of doing different jobs, I decided to go to college, I picked a Christian college a couple of friends were attending and off I went to college in Seattle, Washington. It was an interesting time, and I really enjoyed it. At the end of my four years there, I decided to go on to graduate school at a theological seminary. I enjoyed that experience also.

I left seminary after one year and eventually began my thirty-three-year career in aviation with an airline. I never lost my interest and curiosity with things religious and spiritual during my work life. I went through different phases of being a church member and losing my previous faith and being an agnostic and atheist for a time. Always studying and continuing my education, I became knowledgeable of the many religions and spiritualities out there in the world. It became a bit overwhelming as there are so many different religions in existence, all claiming (well, most claiming) to be “The” religion, the one true religion.

I’ve found a lot of good stuff in various religions. I’ve found a lot of what I would call bad stuff in various religions. Any study of history reveals how horrible many religious movements have been over the years. And I mean horrible. So, being a student of history and of religion and philosophy and science, how do we put this all together? What is the answer? What is the truth? How are we to live? What the $%@&^ is it all about?

I’ve found the one true religion. Yes, it may have taken a long lifetime, but I have found it. I have found that the one true religion is the “mystery.” Yes, the “mystery” of life. You think you have it all figured out? Hmmm…. You know what? You won’t know till it’s all over! Then you will know (if there’s something beyond, something “other” than the visible world we’ve been living in). Or, the alternative is, you won’t know, if there is nothing after death, just nonexistence (which some would say is truth). So, yes, it’s a mystery until we move beyond this dimension. Oh, yeah, we all have our ideas. Our faiths, our speculations, our “certainties.” Our intuitions.

I know. There are people that have an awareness of an existence before birth. There are those who have other “mystical” experiences. Near death experiences. Past life remembrances. Yes, and I have had my “otherworldly” experiences. What to make of it all? Like I said, it is a mystery. I live (and I would say we all live) in the mystery.

One thing I know is that there is a “something.” I know that all of life, if one is awake and aware, is love. Love is what life really is. I do not deny evil, bad, horribleness. Life is horrible in so many ways. But there is also the opposite. There is good. There is love. There is choice. It does come down to choice. How will/do you live? Examine Jesus’ teachings. The Kingdom of God. It’s within you. If you choose.

Wally

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It Ain’t Over Till It’s Over [Post # 113]

Well, following up on my recent blog on retirement and the joy I’m experiencing being retired, I’m having many thoughts about this stage of life. I mentioned that some people do not necessarily enjoy being retired (the “go getters,” those that have lots of energy, ambition, can’t sit still for a minute people) and others (like myself) just love retirement. Two different perspectives on this period of our lives.

Well, even those enjoying retirement have to have something to keep them going. Keep them alive, vibrant, interesting and interested, active to some degree. To just stop, give up on activities and interactions and some kind of social life is not good or healthy, I think. So, what keeps us going? What inspires us, what sustains us?

My life has been great. A success, I’d say. Ready to die, move on to something else if there’s something else? No, I don’t think so. I’m feeling there’s more right here, in this life, to do. I feel a strong feeling that there’s more to do. Is God or the life force leading me on to more? Perhaps something new and different? Well, let’s find out, I say. What’s next in this game of life?

One new direction I’ve taken these past few years is my writing. My inspiration to start blogging, sharing my thoughts and feelings and life story has been a new experience. A little scary at first, I did just plunge ahead and did it. It’s been satisfying and educational for me. It’s a learning experience for me if nothing else. And it has let people how unique, ok, weird, I really am.

So, it’s not over. What’s next? Well, I figure I will continue with writing. We’ll see where that goes. I’d like to write a book or two, but I don’t think I have the patience to endure that large of a project. Are there things I’ve put off in my earlier years that I feel like pursuing now? Nothing comes to mind. I’ve done a lot of traveling. Seen a lot of the world. Very satisfied in that arena.

I am pursuing my educational interests, my continuing education; lifelong learning in fields of interest and some new areas. We’ll see where that goes. I’m interested in the deeper things of life rather than the more superficial things most of our society is obsessed with. So many people just full of prejudices and rigid opinions and susceptible to cults, charismatic leaders, etc. Sick of it all. But I am interested in researching and exposing the crap of these people, organizations, etc. I guess I am a “truth seeker” at heart. Always have been. Just want to live a true life. Be truth is my motto.

As to what “sustains me,” well, that’s an interesting question. Like I said, truth seeking obsesses me. Getting out in nature sustains and enlivens me. Beauty enthralls me. Good relationships, good friends excite me. Starting each day anew is thrilling. Having time to contemplate and be alone in personal spiritual practice gets the day going in the right direction. Inspiration comes in unexpected moments. I have learned to just “go with the flow.” I just “let it be,” and see where it goes.

So, we live a long life, and there’s still more to go. I think that’s exciting! So many friends didn’t get this far. Cut down in the midst of life, as they say. I do appreciate that I’ve come this far. Much further than I ever expected. Outlived my mother by almost twenty years and have almost outlived my father. I’m thrilled about this.

As my blog title states, it ain’t over till it’s over. I’m thankful it is not over yet. I hope I have a lot more discovering, exploring, and enjoying of life. My curiosity does keep me busy, moving forward. I can’t let the crap of the world get me down. I can’t control a lot of life, but I can control my mind, my thinking, my personal space and environment. My connection to the real source of life. Hope you can say the same and see it that way. What’s the saying? “Go with God!” Whatever that means to you, however you see it. It’s the best way to live.

Wally

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Masters, Gurus, Teachers, Cults [Post #111]

Well, this political season is a wild one. Lots of talk about cults and lots of anger and hatred and rigid thinking. Gets me thinking about these things. History is full of cults and people needing groups and leaders to follow who promise everything to loyal followers and use various manipulative and control tactics to maintain a very tight control of followers and their minds. I have even had some personal experience with “cults” in my life.

Now, the term cult does not always mean a bad thing. But often, especially these days, it does imply a bad thing. Christianity was considered a cult in the early days. Now it is rather mainstream, you could say. So, cults can be very bad or just a nuisance , you could say.

My experience with a cult sort of “snuck up on me” over a period of time. I got talked into joining one of those “human potential,” self-improvement,” “enlightenment” movements of the 1970’s. I did a training and consequently took “graduate seminars.” Did a few, or perhaps several, then decided “enough is enough.”

When the organization called me one day to get me signed up for a new seminar, I decided, no, I’ve had enough seminars for this lifetime. I said no, no more seminars. Done with them. Thank you very much, but no.

Well, that was not acceptable. If you’ve done the training and done several post-graduate seminars, you will continue taking classes for the rest of your life, or so their thinking goes. And when the person talking to me realized I was serious, he turned on me rather aggressively. “Oh, no, you can’t stop the program. You’ve got to keep taking seminars. You know what will happen if you outright quit? You are going to die” I was told sternly.

If I were to get on a plane, now it would crash. Or I would be in a fatal car crash, etc. Something bad was going to happen if I broke my association with this group. No question about that, the “universe” would get me. Absolutely certain.

It was hard to believe they could actually seriously say that, but that was apparently how they operated. So, that was my experience with what I considered a cult. A bit scary, I’d say.

So, did I learn anything from this experience? Well, yes. I learned some groups are manipulative and controlling. They say and think that they have the truth. They are sure of that and will do what they need to do to keep you in line, so to speak. These groups often have a guru or a master, a leader who will do everything to control you. If you are needy and lack confidence in yourself, watch out. The bad examples would be the Heaven’s Gate cult or the Jim Jones’ cult. There are lots of examples like these.

So, what have I learned from my experiences? I have learned that I do not especially like the concept of “guru” or “master,” or any authoritarian figure leading a group of needy people. I am fine with the concept of “teachers.” I have teachers in my life. Some great teachers, I would say. But that’s it. They are teachers. Flawed human beings that have a lot of good insights and truths to share with others.

So, today we have a lot of cults. Some more dangerous than others. Some in the political arena. Some very “wacko,” I would say. Some very dangerous. Well, that’s what we have to live with. At least I am aware of them and their dangerous influences. I will not succumb to any authoritarian figure in this day and age. I know better. Unfortunately, I see others, some friends and family cave in to cult leader persuasions. A very disappointing situation for me.

But life goes on. I can just do my best to be aware of all that is going on around me and stand up for what I see as truth. I hope and pray that the bad, the chaotic, and the evil go away and do not become the mainstream, especially in my life and of those I love.

Wally

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Why Are We (Am I) Still Here? [ Post #109 ]

Okay, this may sound a little weird for a title for my blog today, you say. It’s a subject that’s been on my mind lately and I just think I may feel better if I get this thought out there and see where it goes. Once again, perhaps, blogging is my self-therapy. This blog concerns those of us who have lived a long life. If you are like me, having lived a long life, things may be perceived differently than they were earlier in life.

I have experienced losing so many friends and family members. I have outlived so many of my friends. I, at times, think, why have I outlived my friends? It could have been me that passed on, but it wasn’t. I have been given the opportunity to see my life play out, to realize so many of my goals and desires. I have come to see myself having a “complete” life. I was not “cut down” in the midst of the busyness of living. I am thankful for this. Very thankful.

The graveyard. So many of my friends and family are there. I visit their resting places.

I survived the many stages of life we all seem to go through. I survived childhood, which for me was not the best experience I could have had. Some dark times, as I have mentioned numerous times in my writings. I survived, and I went on to break from my family and go off to college and graduate school to experience a more intellectual side of life, as best I could.

I survived the “rat racer” stage of life, where we go to work and work hard and accumulate some money and possessions and perhaps a reputation and status. Many people get stuck in this phase and that is their life, essentially. Perhaps some get disappointed with it all and become a nihilist, completely giving up on life and become very negative people. Notice that among some people you may know? Or, perhaps some become hedonists, just living to experience pleasure as the supreme purpose of life? I’ve seen all of these types of people in my life experience.

Yes, there are many ways we may live our lives. Many different paths to take. In the end, we take “our” path and that is our life. I certainly took my unique path. I lived my life differently than anyone else I know. And a lot of that life stays inside of me, unknown to others, That’s just how life is, as I see it. Some of us get to reveal a good portion of our life to others, some are rather secretive about their individual life. Through my writings, my blogging, I’ve had the opportunity to express and reveal a lot of my life (but certainly just a limited amount because life is so vast and complex).

So, if we have lived a long life, say perhaps, beyond the age of seventy or so, here we are. We’ve done it. Lived our lives. Done our things, our way. Perhaps accomplished a lot, perhaps accomplished very little of what we planned and desired to do. And now what? Just sit and get bored? Wait to die? Or… is there more to do? If we are healthy, we are very fortunate. Our body functions, our mind still works. We can still enjoy the things of this life. Be grateful if this applies to you and your life. Thank life, or the good Lord, some would say. And I agree. I’m very thankful. Very happy with my life as it unfolded.

But, now what? Why am I still here? Is there something more for me to do? To explore? To adventure into? Yeah, that’s where I am, it seems. Now I am searching for that something more. Perhaps more writing. Perhaps more expressing in other various ways. Who knows? That’s the thing about life. Who knows what’s next? What is just around the next corner? A great mystery.

So, I have the time to contemplate my life, and life in general. The more I contemplate my life, the more I realize I’ve had a great life. Better than I ever expected in my earlier years of confusion, chaos, depressions and uncertainty. Yes, it’s all worked out. I don’t want to die today, but if I do, I will go to the next experience a happy camper, as they say. And if the next experience is non-existence, that “void” of nothingness, then so be it. But, as illogical as it seems, sometimes, I believe there may be something more. I love God, the creative force, and I love Jesus, and I love life. And many other saints and sages. Why am I still here? Ahhh… that’s the mystery. I let it be. I have another day here, let’s go for it!

Wally

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The Problem with Positive Thinking, Self Help, Seeking Happiness [Post #108]

Alright, this sounds like a strange topic for a blog that has a theme of “On the Path… It’s a Wonderful Life.” I agree but let me explain. I’m all for having and creating a good and happy, positive life. I’ve written about my earlier years. Times of chaos, unhappiness, anger, confusion and the usual childhood family experiences that many of us have had. Very dark times I survived. I got through them with no major wrong turns, fortunately.

So, I have always sought a better life than my early years led me to believe was my future. I at some point realized that I had to go my own way. Create my own life, rather than just do what I was told to do. That was the path that saved me from a very bad life of deep, dark depression. Something in my inner self pointed me in the right direction. I looked for and sought out a positive way of living. I sought out religious and spiritual wisdom and guidance and knowledge. Yes, I became acquainted with the self-help literature. I learned how to be more positive and battle the negatives of life. It worked. My life turned out good. It turned out wonderful, in fact. But, underneath the “good life” I was living, there was always a dark place staring me in my face if I let it. The bad things in life. The negative, the evil, etc. Yep, always there.

Now that I have lived many, many decades and survived so many twists and turns on my path, I began to realize that something was missing. So much of the happiness seeking and self-help literature seemed to be missing something. Like so much of church experience, there was a lot of “fluff,” stuff preached at us that was not really honest and substantial. I consider myself a real, deep, and substantial person, so I looked at this situation more closely. How could seeking happiness and positive thinking be lacking something or not perhaps the best way to live?

Well, happiness is good. Joy in life is wonderful. Self-help literature can certainly be helpful and a good thing. But there’s the other side of life. Life is sh*t, the world is f*cked. There’s evil out there. Study history. I did, it was my major in college and I’m deep into studying it now in my continuing adult education. How do you reconcile it all, living a good, positive happy joyous life and seeing the crap of the world?

I needed a new, different perspective on life that was more realistic, real, true, yet good and helpful and positive. Then I came across two interesting books that got me thinking more along these lines of how to be happy and live a good life amid all the muck in this world. The titles are a bit unusual and, well, gross. “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,” and “Everything is F*cked.”

Read the two books. Couldn’t put them down and then discovered there was a third book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**ck Journal.” Wow, that really got me working on looking at my life in a new way. A different way to see things, consider how you are living and how you may want to live to deal with life now. For me, that was great. Just what I needed. Basically, telling us that there are only limited amounts of f*cks to give in life, so be deliberate in deciding where to give your attention. Don’t waste your life energy on unimportant things in your life. Give your energy to what really matters to you in life. Forget the rest. That not giving a f*ck is one of the greatest skills in life you can learn.

Well, I could go on and on, as usual in my blogs, but you get the point, I hope. There is so much we cannot control in life. Being unrealistically positive and denying the bad in this world does not work, as I see it. I say denial is never a good thing. There is a lot of crap in life. So much of life is control and manipulation of us by others. Parents, family, teachers, friends, the education system and the business world and politics, etc. There is always pain and suffering and conflicts in life. Everyone has their own agenda. Many want to hurt or harm us in one way or another, make us “play the game” (their game, their way). Perhaps you don’t see it that way, but I do. I’ve been around a long time, seen it all.

So, from these books and this personal working journal and my stoic philosophy, I see things much more clearly than I ever did before. We all hurt at times. We have been hurt. Sh*t happens. There is pain and suffering in life. Even Jesus says this. The Buddha, and others. Such is life. Life is learning how to handle all of this, and that is what we have to do, really. Otherwise, we are in denial and living a false, fantasy life. A totally pleasurable, happy all the time life, with no problems. no dark times ever.

So, yes, give a f*ck. But give good f*cks. About things you really care about. Be love, give love, live totally in love, as I see it. Deal with reality. We are going to die, you know. Just live a good, ethical life so you can feel good about it all when you must say “goodbye” to everything and everyone.

I could go on, and maybe in later blog posts I’ll include some more insights gained from these books. I’ll just briefly say a few more things brought out in my reading of these books.

Shut up and be grateful. Eliminate what is not adding value to your life. Create a “F*ck it list of things you will not get involved in. Do not let emotions hijack your decision making. Don’t hope for a life without problems. There will always be problems. Make your life about having better problems (yes, this is possible). There are problems you can actually enjoy having and enjoy solving. Know your values. Ask what problems you enjoy solving in life. Focus on what you can control. F*ck the rest. Find greater purpose in your life. Is that enough to begin thinking in new, unconventional ways? Thinking in these ways have proved very beneficial for me. Enjoy your journey.

Wally

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Know Thyself [Post #107]

I’m a what? After many decades of life, I am just beginning to learn some new things about myself and some new terms to apply to myself. In my previous post I was discussing my existential angst and my thanatophobia. And, after continuing to study where I’m at these days and what terms may be used to describe my current state of affairs, I came up with some new revelations.

My latest discovery is that I am a taphophile. A taphophile, I tell you. Who knew? Certainly not me, well, not until I really thought about it. Oh, if you’re wondering what the hell I’m talking about, a taphophile is a “tombstone tourist.” Or a cemetery enthusiast. Strange terms to apply to myself.

As I think about it, though, I guess it’s true and I own up to it. I mentioned in previous posts that death experiences always seemed to have surrounded me and in college, one of my pleasant experiences was strolling through a cemetery near my college campus. It was a time of peace and contemplation for me for those four years on campus.

For one summer, I stayed in Seattle (I was attending college in Seattle, but my home was in Los Angeles) and accepted an offer to be a night watchman and live in an apartment at a mortuary in downtown Seattle. I would also assist in some of the functions and work at the mortuary. And, yes, that could be at times a bit “creepy.” But, also, I seemed to enjoy the unique experience of living and working in the place.

So, skipping ahead to today’s life in retirement and my current activities, I’m finding I still enjoy walks through local cemeteries and the contemplative and peaceful hikes and times spent there among the grave sites. Weird? Perhaps. I remember my dad once told me he lived near a cemetery at one time, and he could not stand it. He said he could always “smell death” and it almost made him sick. I guess he was not a taphophile.

So, what is it that attracts me to this unusual practice of being a tombstone tourist? Well, besides the peace and quiet of the graveyard, I enjoy looking at the tombstones or grave markers and noticing sometimes interesting comments and statements of those interred there. Also, just looking at the many, many graves I think about all these people (well, former people) and the lives they all lived. So many different, extremely different lives. Their lives are over. What was it all about, these thousands of lives? Oh, there is my existential angst, again. What is it all about?

Our lives. We’re created, we’re here for a while, and then we are gone. Happens to all of us. Yes, all of us. What’s my life about? What’s your life about? Did we do it right while we were here? There were many miserable lives lived, but also many wonderful lives lived. How do you rate or classify your life here for that brief time you were given?

I’ve stated in many blog posts that my life has been very good, even with the rough spots here and there. I dreamed and I achieved my dreams. I loved and have been loved. I wish it didn’t have to end, but I don’t get to control that aspect of life. Those graveyard strolls make me think on these things, not that they give me many answers. The mystery just continues. I have to live in the mystery of it all, like we all do. Religion and philosophy may give us some comfort, but really…we don’t know what it’s all about, do we?

Wally

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Existential Angst and Thanatophobia [Post # 106]

Well, those are two terms that probably need a little explaining. Perhaps a better title of this essay would be “the mystery of life and the mystery / fear or anxiety of death.” Ahhh, the biggies of life. Yeah, when we get older and realize, ahhh, our future is rather limited, and we are honest with ourselves, we look at things differently than we may have previously. My perspective is a bit different and a bit more intense at this stage of life than it was previously. In other words, the end is near and I don’t like what I’m seeing down the road (or right in front of me, perhaps).

So much of life is lived in denial, it seems. We are so busy living, struggling with life, achieving something, acquiring “stuff,” etc., that we don’t really think about the deep, meaningful aspects of our short time on this earth plane. Most people, anyway.

I’ve always been a deep thinker, a philosopher, perhaps a theologian of sorts. A believer, a non-believer, an agnostic, an atheist, a skeptic. Life is a real mystery and I understand and see that. And, yes, it drives me nuts if I think about it for very long. I’m currently studying science, history (my major in college), philosophy, theology and psychology in depth. And, yes, I’m enjoying the study. But the more I study, the more I learn, the more I realize there are no answers to the mystery of it all. There are facts, there are beliefs, there are experiences. There are systems or organizations claiming to have answers (usually called religions or belief systems or philosophies). Or cults or other groups. Lots of explanations, lots of “answers,” but “The answer”… well… some day we may know more of the answer, or maybe not.

That’s the existential angst. What’s it all about? And the thanatophobia. The anxiety or fear of death and the death process. Yeah, I see that in conjunction with the angst. Another great mystery. And we can feel all nice and secure in our beliefs and spiritual insights and enlightenment, but, really, we have to confront it and we know not when. And that drives me nuts. It’s not just theory, imaginings. It’s gonna be real. Time’s up.

I just had a friend die unexpectedly after being at our house having a good time. He went home and had a heart attack that night. And so it is with so many of us. One day here having a great time, and then, poof, gone.

Maybe I’ve been a morbid one most of my life. My first experience with death was when my cousin came to Los Angeles for a heart operation about age five or six, the same age I was. We were here playing one day, having a great time. Then, the next day he had his surgery, and he died. Poof. I didn’t know for a while what happened. I just knew something was wrong as his mother and my mother just walked about crying all day.

My first experience with death. Playing with my cousin the day before his death undergoing heart surgery.

In college I spent a summer living in a mortuary being a caretaker of the establishment and I got a free apartment for my work there. I was involved in many aspects of the business, assisting the morticians in various tasks. Very creepy at times but of course I was fascinated with it all.

Also, in my college years I would enjoy walking up the hill from my dorm and walking through the cemetery that was there. Felt a strange sense of peace and angst of sorts. Got me thinking a lot about life.

In pervious blogs I mentioned I had two strange experiences in my life. One at around age six when I was going under the anesthesia for my tonsillectomy. I went to a strange dark void and had an experience that I can only explain as an “other worldly” experience (a contact with God?). That experience is as vivid as if it happened yesterday.

The other weird experience was a “dress rehearsal” of sorts of my own death. It was so real. It was an experience I really can’t put into words. I experienced dying. Really experienced the whole process. I cannot shake that from my mind, just like my going under anesthesia as a child. And many years later I had a dream like no other dream l ever had. I was in a space capsule all alone out in deep space. It was an eerie feeling. All alone, in the dark void, at the center of being. With “God” again? A feeling I can’t put into words, again.

So, those are my two anxieties. Guess I just have to live with them. The purpose of life. What it’s all about? We have to find that out for ourselves. We have to make our own purpose. And the big event coming our way, death; well, it can’t be avoided. Some people may be comfortable with the event that is ahead of us and that may come at any moment. Currently, I am not. No matter how “enlightened” I may be, I ain’t there yet. Things may change. As I see it, we must live in the mystery. The mystery of the purpose of life. The horror of experiencing death. And being happy till the end. Wow, that’s a lot to ponder.

Maybe others aren’t bothered like I am over these matters. Perhaps denial of death and not understanding the meaning of life is how most people live. It doesn’t work for me. That’s what I know. Being one with it all, being enlightened, having an inner, spiritual life is great, but, still, we know what’s coming. Not when or the how or what the experience will be like. I think my “dress rehearsal“ experience of dying while on drugs is probably pretty accurate of what it will be like, along with my other two experiences of the deep black, eerie, lonely “void.” That’s my feeling at the present time. Guess I won’t be able to come back to tell you or anyone.

I’m fascinated by the NDE (“near death experiences”) stories I’ve read about. I’m open to those stories and how they have affected people. But those are stories of the “transitional” state and the people come back. Don’t know of any that have come back after six months or so. Of course, there are the “past lives” stories, which are also fascinating.

Well, as of now, at this point in my life, all I can do is acknowledge my existential angst and my thanatophobia. I stand in awe (and trembling) of the great mystery. God help me cope with it all.

Wally